putting yourself out there

That quote has got to be one of my all time favorites, for so many reasons. Those words really resonate with just about every aspect of life. That fear of not being good enough. Especially when trying something new and stepping so far out of your comfort zone. I definitely feel that I’ve connected with this quote so much more while starting this blog. Ya’ll I’ve been wanting to blog for so long, and for whatever reason I just kept putting it off. I’ll do it next year, next month, next week I’d say. That nagging pessimistic voice in the back of my head would ultimately stop me from ever going thorough with it.

Would I be able to produce quality content? Would people like or connect with what I post? Am I in over my head?

Recently, I ran across a post on twitter from a fellow blogger who was contemplating on whether or not to make their blog public. They were struggling with the idea of people who know them in real-life finding their blog. Scrolling though the thread I began to realize that this is a common fear among bloggers or anyone who chooses to open themselves up on the internet. What is it about the people who intimately know us finding our online presence that’s so unnerving?

I admit that I myself had a few moments when I was like, do I really want people that I went to high school with finding this blog? People that I work with? Heck, even some of my closest friends and family. What would they think? So many thoughts swirled in my mind on this, and I’m sure that others can relate.

Something about putting yourself out there, and allowing complete strangers to see into your life and read your published thoughts is admittedly a little scary. But, it’s even more so when people who actually know you in real life catch wind of it. There are so many negative Nancy’s out there who take pleasure in picking apart things that they just don’t understand. Blogging is by no means as simple as some may think, and it’s not for everybody. Some may even find it a waste of time. And let’s not forget the folks who think that you’re simply starting a blog to get ‘internet famous‘. Whatever your reason for starting a blog, you can’t let others dull your shine.

In the words of Taylor Swift, ‘Cause the players gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate.

Did you or do you still dread people you know finding your blog (or other socials)? Or, does it not bother you? Let me know your thoughts on this! I’m curious to hear another prospective on this topic. Personally, I made the decision very early on that my blog is essentially for me. I post content that I’ve worked super hard on, and that I am proud of! If someone finds fault in that, then let them. You can’t please everyone, ans that’s a fact.

Until next time,

Anjhanee ♡

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  1. June 28, 2018 / 9:11 pm

    You bring up a great point, I totally haven’t told my family or High School friends about my blog and now I’m wondering why? Am I afraid they’ll look down on it or am I just being modest. This was an inspiring post Anjhanee! You have a new follower in me 😊❤️💙😊

    Natonya | http://www.justnatonya.wordpress.com

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 10:27 pm

      Omg, thank you so much! It’s hard work running a blog, so why hide it from certain people? Let them come and look at alllll of our amazingness. 👏💛💛

  2. June 28, 2018 / 7:23 pm

    I have definitely gone through that process (and still do at times). I think that, for me, it has challenged me to think about who I want to be on my blog, and in life. With the message I am trying to spread on my blog, I realized that it would be silly to try to keep quiet about it.

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 10:24 pm

      🙌 I definitely agree. I’ve said for day one that my blog is going to be a reflection of who I am, so why not share that with everyone? 💛

  3. June 28, 2018 / 3:44 pm

    I love that quote!! Yes I definitely find it nervous for people I know reading my blog but I am lucky enough that the people I have told have been really supportive and I only tell them when I am comfortable. xx

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 9:35 pm

      That’s awesome! Same here. Everyone has been super supportive, which makes sharing with them so much easier. 💛

  4. June 28, 2018 / 8:11 am

    That’s a fantastic quote, I’ve never heard it before. I totally believe in putting yourself out there. I didn’t really think about it with my blog, I just did 🙂 xxx

  5. June 28, 2018 / 7:57 am

    A few of my friends and my boyfriend know that I blog, but nobody who I went to school with, and most of the people I go to uni with don’t know. I think part of me is still scared, and I’m not really ready for it to be public yet?

    Beka | http://www.bekadaisies.com

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 2:31 pm

      There is nothing wrong with not being ready. It’s a big decision, but you’ve already let some people know which is awesome! A step, is a step no matter how small. 💛

  6. June 28, 2018 / 2:27 am

    This is such a beautifully written post and so, so important. I’m somewhere between telling people about my blog and keeping it to myself – it’s a pretty personal and tough decision to make!

    Sending you good vibes!

    Nati x | http://www.lifeaftercoffeeblog.com | @NAfterCoffee

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 2:28 pm

      Thank you so much! 💛 Sending good vibes right back, hun.

  7. June 28, 2018 / 1:27 am

    I think we all struggle with putting ourselves out there in some way. It’s a huge obstacle to overcome, but once you’ve got past it, you wish you would have done it sooner! XOXO.
    http://www.deltahoteljuliet.com

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 2:26 pm

      Definitely agree! You never know until you try. 💛

  8. June 27, 2018 / 10:24 pm

    This is great! Thanks for sharing!

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 28, 2018 / 2:25 pm

      Thank you for showing the post some love! 💛

  9. June 27, 2018 / 5:07 pm

    I haven’t hidden my blog as I use my real name and share photos of myself but I’ve never posted about it on my personal accounts or anything so I definitely relate to this! I’d love to be more open about it in the future!x

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 27, 2018 / 9:16 pm

      That’s exactly how I was. Something about it was scary, but now I’m a lot more open with my blog on my personal accounts! You’ll get there, one step at a time! 💛

  10. June 27, 2018 / 3:46 pm

    This is so true, I’m always most nervous about sharing my posts on my personal Facebook page but am building confidence and pride in my writing with time x

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 27, 2018 / 9:14 pm

      One step at a time! Same for me, I’ve started linking my blog to my personal Facebook more and more and the reception has been amazing. You never know what’ll happen until you try. 💛

  11. June 27, 2018 / 3:38 pm

    I completely understand this – I hid my blog for years, but now I’m more open about it and people love it! And I can even use my friends as photographers now 😉

    Chloexlizabeth.blogspot.co.uk <3

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 27, 2018 / 9:13 pm

      That’s awesome! I’m definitely going to be enlisting my friends and boyfriend into my photo department, soon! 💛

  12. whatrachdidnext
    June 27, 2018 / 3:07 pm

    It’s so hard putting yourself out there isn’t it? I have been so scared of social media until the last few weeks but having plucked up the courage to leave.a few comments here and there, I’ve realised how super lovely the blogging community are! Keep going, you’re doing a great job! 🤩

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 27, 2018 / 9:11 pm

      Thank you so much! 💛 I couldn’t agree more, I have already met some of the nicest people. It truly is a very welcoming community!

  13. June 26, 2018 / 10:53 pm

    When I started my blog, I was excited about sharing it but got hesitant with posting it on my personal FB. Twitter and Instagram was fine but Facebook was hard. Maybe because it’s more personable. In fact, I just created a FB page for Green Loc’d Momster and already thinking how am I going to invite people to the page without sounding too pushy. So yes -I completely agree with your post. I am working on this lol. Thanks for this! Much peace and love to you sis!

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 11:28 pm

      Same here, something about the Facebook was like eeek. I have a separate Facebook page for my blog too, I need to use it more. It’s a work in progress, for sure. Thank you so much, hun. 😘

  14. June 26, 2018 / 9:56 pm

    I think all bloggers had that moment when the thought about being so vulnerable to the world and this was both far and near!

  15. June 26, 2018 / 9:33 pm

    Really nice and relatable post. My friends are aware aware of my blog. For me personally, I don’t care who finds out. Like you said, my blog is for me by me. Even though I have an alias now, my initial plan is to change from that to my actual name when I have my own domain.

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 10:06 pm

      Thank you so much! 💛 Can’t wait to see what your domain will be. 🙂

  16. Sharon
    June 26, 2018 / 8:34 pm

    Think this was 1st 2 months but then all the time we spend on content and pictures we need people to see it so off I went networking . I have a very sweet and attentive tribe. So happy your putting your self out there looking forward to following you!

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 8:58 pm

      Thank you so much! I look forward to following you as well. 💛

  17. June 26, 2018 / 6:49 pm

    When I started my blog, it was strange, never ever thought about doing something like that, but i thought if i have a passion, why not show it to others?! Also, I think blogging is an excellent way of communicating your thoughts. Nice post by the way🙂

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 7:30 pm

      I agree, it’s a great way to give life to all of the thoughts in your head. Thank you so much! 💛

  18. June 26, 2018 / 6:08 pm

    I don’t think I ever had an issue with putting my blog out there for friends and family to see. I didn’t really think about it. I enjoyed doing it and if they didn’t, oh well?

    It’s definitely misunderstood and you do get the odd person saying it’s pointless. But I do it as a hobby and if it grows from there, then that’s great.

    But not being good enough is DEFINITELY a recurring theme amung all bloggers. They’d be lying if they said they didn’t feel that way!

    Laura ☆ http://www.laurahasablog.co.uk

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 7:23 pm

      Great points! Yeah, my entire family is super supportive (which they always are) so I have no clue why I was nervous about it. Especially with so many content creators these days, how could someone not feel that way! Just have to believe in your work. Thank you! 💛

  19. June 26, 2018 / 6:05 pm

    I was actually incredibly open about my blog and social media channels. I’ve always been a writer and I was hardly ever hesitant about people reading my shorts stories and/or poetry and the blog was no different. The worst that’s going to happen is that they aren’t going to like it and that’s perfectly okay.

    Great post! x

    Michelle
    dressingwithstyle-s.com

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 7:20 pm

      💛💛💛💛 That is awesome! Honestly, I’m not sure why I was nervous at first because I’m an incredibly open person. Drama, Chorus, Theatre Troupe, Talent Shows, American Idol Auditions, I have done it allll! Thank you! And, can I just say that I too love myself some Harry Edward Styles. 😍

  20. June 26, 2018 / 5:53 pm

    I worried about what colleagues would think when I first started my blog, but now I just don’t care.

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 7:16 pm

      Same, now it’s like ‘extra, extra, read all about it!’ 🙌

      • June 26, 2018 / 8:45 pm

        Same! Traffic, traffic, traffic! 🙂

  21. June 26, 2018 / 4:58 pm

    I totally get this. After 6 months of blogging, I just shared a post on my personal Facebook page. I still don’t use my real name when blogging (yes, my real name isn’t The Frozen Mind). I have been thinking about doing that though. I finally did put my picture on my About Me page.

    So, j sort of feel like you were writing about me!

    Great post!

    • simplyanjhanee
      Author
      June 26, 2018 / 7:14 pm

      At first, I only linked my very first post to my blog on my personal Facebook and now I do occasionally. You should do it! A small step, is still a step. My real name IS Anjhaneè, lol. Not just some random letters I threw together. Thank you so much! 💛

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