A word from the Author: Hi! My name is Antoria Lynch. I’m a 21 year old West Indian mental health/self-help blogger and aspiring author and teacher. In 2017, I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) and since then, my mental health journey has been an uphill battle. I started my blog with the intention of dealing with my own struggles; it became my healthy “coping mechanism”. Soon enough, it became a way for me to give back to the mental health advocate community by spreading awareness of the severity of mental illness.
The Pros and Cons of Resolutions
It’s the beginning of a new year and we all have mixed emotions.
For some of us, excitement. Some fear. Some hope. Whatever emotion that’s coursing through your body at this point in time, it’s valid. A new year means new opportunities, new trials but most importantly, new goals/resolutions.
By now, you would have probably pulled out that dusty journal of yours and started writing up a list of the things you want to accomplish in 2019 (I know I did, no shame!). However, while there are some great benefits of creating resolutions every year and working towards them, there are also some downfalls that I’ve observed during the course of my young adult life. Let’s discuss:
- Encourages self-development: Most resolutions are created with our best interests in mind. Be it working out more, being disciplined with your money, or to stop cursing (I felt this), all of these were created in hopes of improving self-development for the year.
- Gives a sense of direction: Having a plan before the new year starts is always a comforting thing. Resolutions are like a road map; you’re the creator. Putting together these plans and goals leaves no space for uncertainty for your year. Yes, life has ways of unexpectedly throwing things our way but with a well thought out roadmap, there are different avenues you can take to get where you need to be.
- Increases discipline: With a sense of direction, comes a sense of control. With resolutions in place, you’d not only have an idea of what you want to achieve, but also what you need to do and not do to get there. That’s how you become more and more disciplined in your every day life.
- May give off the idea that something is wrong with you and you need to be perfected: I have taken the wrong approach when it comes to creating resolutions every new year for the past 10 years of my life. I’d always go in thinking that in certain aspects of my life needed fixing immediately and that I wasn’t a good enough of a person if those things weren’t fixed. That’s exactly how, for most of my life, I’ve accomplished not one resolution. We must go in with the mindset that we are enough as we are; we’re just enhancing ourselves to become better than we already are. You don’t need to be perfect. You’re good as you are.
- May encourage anxiety and stress when goals aren’t met in a timely manner: Goals have deadlines; they can either be short-term or long-term. We give ourselves are a year, 12 months, to meet these resolutions that we set on the 1st of January. When we notice that none of our resolutions are being checked off our lists, we come worried. Anxious even. And we begin beating down on ourselves. But to be quite frank with you, some goals just cannot be accomplished in a year. And that is okay. Remind yourself that everything takes times. You’re a work in process.
- Encourages unhealthy competition with others: Social media is the reason for this one. Now, there’s nothing with posting your resolutions online, but some of us become stressed out when we see that others are accomplishing their goals and you’re barely scratching the surface. Comparison is the thief of joy. Before the new year begins, I urge you to remind yourself that everyone’s life is different and you will achieve all the goals you’ve set out in time.
Like everything in this life, creating resolutions every year has its advantages and disadvantages. However, it is very possible to remove the negative effects with just the simple shift of mindset and approach.
What are some of your resolutions for the new year of 2019? Comment and let me know! I plan on becoming more active, getting closer to God and having a lot more self-compassion for myself.
A massive thank you to Antoria for being a part of ‘Be My Guest‘, and for taking the time to share her 2019 goals on Simply Anjhanee!